Educational Psychologist
Mrs.Devi Venugopal
Dear Readers,
We have been seeing the different triggers, we will see the most powerful element which plays a major role that is environment soon. Before talking about the external factors, I would like to discuss a bit more on the internal factors which are in our control.
Let’s see what 8 habits makes the most successful people to stand out from the rest of the crowd. The Stanford Research by Carol Dweck, who conducted a series of experiments to see the difference on the mindset.
The average person perceives their abilities as fixed assets while the successful people focus on self-improvement and overcoming challenges rather than perceiving g their mistakes as the products of personal flaws. Another study by Penn State and Duke, researchers assessed the social skills of 700 kindergartners.
Twenty years later, they followed up and discovered a strong correlation between social skills and success.
The children with best social skills were more likely to earn a college degree, hold a full-time job, while kids who struggled with social skills were more likely to binge drink. Arrested and apply for public housing. There are several theories to measure the skills of the successful people. I think that the most successful people are wildly complex – so complex that many of their defining qualities are paradoxical.
Rather than either/or, or set characteristics, they’re more likely to demonstrate both. Here are some examples below:
- They’re polite, still not scared to rock the boat
Successful people are called by the term Dr. Travis Bradberry “Graciously disruptive”. They are never satisfied with status quo; they are ones who constantly ask “what if?” and “Why not?”. They are not scared to question the conventional wisdom, yet they don’t disrupt things for the sake of being disruptive; they do it to make things better. Still grounding themselves, without drawing attention to other people’s mistakes to humiliate them. Zero Blaming. However, it does not mean that they will let people wander off in the wrong direction. They don’t hesitate to speak when it time to change course.
- They’re deeply passionate yet rational and objective about their work.
Only when you are passionate you are alive otherwise you are walking dead. Successful people are passionate about their work, but they don’t let it skew their thinking.
They can step back and look at their work with a critical eye and accept their mistakes, if it is disaster they own it, because they realize it is better to try something rather than to put out something subpar with their name on it. That sense of detachment also allows them to accept others feedback without taking it personally. Sometimes we get confused with involvement with attachment and it becomes messy.
- They’re both convergent and divergent thinkers.
Convergent thinking is what’s measured by IQ tests: rational thinking that results in a single right answer. Divergent thinking, on the other hand, is less precise. It is about generating ideas and asking questions that have no solid right or wrong answers. Both are important. No matter how high your IQ is, you can’t be successful if you can’tthink outside the box. On the other hand, you need rational thinking skills to correctly judge whether your ideas have merit.
That’s why this particular paradox is important. You can fixate on a particular way of thinking, you have to do what is needed for the hour, even if it does not come to you easily.
- They’re both energetic and calm.
Successful people seem to have limitless energy when it comes to doing the things, they’re passionate about, but they aren’t frantic. They keep their energy under control.
They work hard and focus on the task at hand with focused attention, but they are smooth they look it both easy and fun. Some people are so energetic that they’re hyperactive and unfocused and constantly bouncing from one thing to another. Successful people know how to harness the energy so that it works in the service of progress and doesn’t undermine it.
- They like to work and play.
Successful people personify the often-repeated quote, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” Because they love what they do, they find brainstorming, problem-solving, and grinding through tough projects thought provoking, engaging and deeply satisfying. And though they take their work very seriously, the enjoyment and gratification they derive from it blurs the common demarcation between work and play.
- They’re ambiverts.
Successful people are comfortable acting in ways that amplify their introversion and extraversion, depending on what the situation calls for. They can happily work at the backend without being noticed or taking credits, simultaneously they can grab a microphone and engage a huge crowd and be comfortable in the spotlight.
- They’re naive and smart.
No one would argue that intelligence isn’t an important part of success, but many successful people also have a childlike lack of awareness (or its lack of respect) for the stereotypical constraints what other people blindly accept.
- They’re both humble and proud.
Taking pride in your work is absolutely essential for success, but successful people know they wouldn’t be where they are without the people who came before them and those they’ve worked with along the way. They know they can’t achieve success on their own and because they’re Ok with that, they don’t have to prove. That’s why so many incredible successful people come across as grounded and humble when you meet them in person.
The reason that there are so many different opinions on what traits are necessary for success and the reason that so many of them contradict each other, is that successful people are complex, yet simple at the same time. They have a variety of paradoxical skills that they call upon as needed, like a mechanic with a. well stocked toolbox.
Citation
Dr. Travis Bradberry, Author of Emotional Intelligence Habits. =
